DATING

Dating? Yes. In-fact, that is the means by which we find our spouses! Or rather, dating is, to me, the 'process' as it were, of figuring out whether or not you and another individual are compatible. Some say that us Mormon guys date to marry. There is truth to that. But, what I suspect happens is that we guys forget that dating does not HAVE to end in marriage. Dating can be just for fun. I hear from some that the thought that flows through a Mormon guy's head is, "I don't know if I should date her. Do I really want to end up marrying her?" This seems a bit extreme if I might say so. Methinks it would be good if such thoughts came much later down the dating timeline as it were. How long should one date before considering 'popping the question'? I havn't a clue! The irony of the thing is that I've done very little dating myself.  But what I do know is what church leaders have said, and that is to date! Oh, and as a note: I've heard time and time again, that there is no 'one' out there. That is, the 'one' that is perfect, or that God had chosen. I may be very wrong on this, but I suspect that such cases are rare. For the vast majority of us, we have the freedom to choose. If we feel that she would be a good choice, and she feels the same way (for the man is not without the woman, neither is the woman without the man [see 1 Corinthians 11:11]), then chances are, God will approve. But, as it goes without really saying, one must always ask and receive a testimony for oneself. I suspect that knowing that God himself approves of your marriage must be such a nice feeling.